The 80% Rule

The Problem We're Solving

Your child opens ChatGPT. Types "write an essay about the French Revolution." Gets 500 words in 10 seconds. Copies. Pastes. Done.

What did they learn? Nothing. What skill did they build? None. What happens when they face a problem AI can't solve? They freeze.

This isn't hypothetical. Teachers are watching it happen in real-time. Kids who used to struggle productively now struggle to start without AI. The cognitive muscle is atrophying before it's even built.

But banning AI isn't the answer either. These tools are powerful. Your kids will use them their entire lives. The question isn't whether they use AI—it's how.

The 80% Rule: A Framework

The 80% Rule is simple: Your child must create 80% of any work themselves before AI enters the picture.

But here's the key—AI's role isn't to finish the remaining 20%. AI's role is to critique what they've created, so they can make it better themselves.

How It Works (Step by Step)

Step 1: They Write First (80%)

Your child tackles the assignment on their own. They struggle. They think. They get stuck and push through. They produce something imperfect but theirs.

This is where learning happens. The neural pathways form when we struggle, not when we consume answers.

What this looks like:

• A rough draft essay with gaps and weak arguments
• A math problem worked through with some wrong turns
• A creative story that's messy but imaginative
• Code that mostly works but has bugs

Step 2: AI Critiques (Not Completes)

Now—and only now—they can bring in AI. But not to ask "finish this for me." Instead:

Prompts that work:

• "What's the weakest argument in my essay?"
• "Where does my logic break down?"
• "What am I missing that would make this stronger?"
• "Point out three things I could improve, but don't fix them for me."
• "If you were grading this, what would you mark wrong?"

Prompts to avoid:

• "Rewrite this for me"
• "Make this better"
• "Finish this paragraph"
• "What's the answer?"

Step 3: They Improve (Themselves)

Armed with feedback, your child revises. They address the weak points AI identified—but in their own words, with their own thinking.

The work stays theirs. The improvement is real. The learning compounds.

Why This Works (The Science)

Learning researchers call it "desirable difficulty." When things are too easy, we don't retain them. When we struggle and then succeed, the learning sticks.

AI that does the work removes the difficulty. AI that critiques the work preserves it—while adding the benefit of personalized feedback.

Think of it like weightlifting. Having someone else lift the weights doesn't make you stronger. But having a coach watch your form and suggest corrections? That accelerates real growth.

Red Flags: When to Reset

Watch for these signs that the balance has tipped wrong:

If you see these patterns, reset. Go back to AI-free work for a while. The muscle needs to rebuild.

Age-Specific Adjustments

Ages 6-9: The 100% Rule

Honestly? At this age, the rule might be 100%—no AI for their work at all. They're building foundational skills: handwriting, basic reasoning, imagination. AI can wait. If you use AI at all, use it together, for exploration and curiosity—never for their assignments.

Ages 10-12: The 80% Rule (Training Wheels)

This is when to introduce the framework. Sit with them the first few times. Model the right prompts. Help them resist the temptation to ask AI for answers. They're learning a skill as important as any subject: how to use a powerful tool responsibly.

Ages 13+: The 80% Rule (Independent)

By now, they should be running the framework themselves. Your role shifts from supervisor to occasional auditor. Spot-check their work. Have conversations about how they're using AI. Trust, but verify.

Making It Stick: Implementation Tips

1. Make it explicit. Don't assume they'll figure out the right approach. Explain the rule, the reasoning, and the consequences of violating it.
2. Use the language. "Did you do your 80% first?" becomes a household phrase.
3. Check the prompts. Ask to see what they asked AI. The prompts reveal everything.
4. Celebrate the struggle. When they're stuck, that's not a problem—that's the goal. Normalize productive frustration.
5. Model it yourself. Let them see you using AI as a critic, not a creator.

The Printable Framework

Put this on the fridge. Tape it near their desk. Make it visible.